What I’ve come to understand just earlier, since life has become really really cruel the past few months, is that we should stop mistaking looking down on other people’s struggles as comfort towards them. However, for this topic, class, I am very much aware that people are not aware they do that. Haha.

Have you ever tried telling someone you’re having a difficult time with something only to receive an answer such as “buti ka nga..”? This is what I want to talk about, especially since earlier, it was the automatic response that came up to me. Good thing I was able to stop myself though.

You see, I think it would be better to just listen than to try to make people feel as if they have it better than you, when they’re actually trying to share a struggle they are going through. In reality, that is basically shoving their thoughts away, brushing their words off both your shoulders and shifting the spotlight to yourself. They may want to talk about it more, you know. Sometimes, people will just prefer someone who will listen to the problem than someone with a solution, and without intending so, actually just add up.

Just.. listen, people. Best advice, I think. And please be mindful.

Maybe I ranted. Maybe I did not.




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